Taking a Step back...

Pride seems to overwhelm people's judgments and their present situations. Pride is one of those unruly viruses that attack the mental state of people and have them choose things that really don't matter most. We all care what people think and feel. If we didn't we wouldn't have so many political opinions and bickering amongst ourselves. It's hard to overcome the little things when they bog down your brain to no END!! I say, "Take a step back.." is it really that important? Do you really need the new purse, the new car, the expensive clothes, the approval from others, and the "reputation"money focuses on? Or that "friend" that only needs you in the darkness of their lives? I read, the definition of success is pleasure. You can have all the money in the world, but if you are not pleased or satisfied with yourself, it means nothing. Doing the things you like most is a feeling of success even if it doesn't bring a penny to your pocket. When you know you have outdone yourself and exceeded the possibilities of your current situation, it's okay to take a step back. No one will notice. Only you will notice. Most people aren't looking to give the stamp of approval to others, they normally are in the same situation as you. They are normally too worried about themselves and what other's are thinking of them. John C Maxwell writes in his book "Failing Forward," about 15 steps to removing yourself from failure. The one that sticks the most is, "Get over yourself, everyone else has." It's not all about you! It's about recreating and learning from what you've done in your life that has led you to the current situation. Everyday is a learning process, most of us have mastered the art of getting ourselves ready in the morning. But what else have we taught ourselves? Have we learned to wake up and do 20 push ups, to increase the chances of better health? Have we learned to floss our teeth, so that we won't be paying thousands of dollars in our elder years for prosthetics? Have we learned to tell ourselves that I will make today a day of worth, moving towards a realistic goal? I believe we all fall short of many capabilities that we have abilities for. We allow our SHORTCOMINGS enrich our becoming. Just take a step back, breath, relax, and realize that you are not the only one and not the last. Life is a process that require stepping stones leading to ultimately what you choose. Everyone will have a different objective, but everyone has a purpose. Is what you are doing today, the reason you believe you are supposed to be here? Most of us know that we are not doing what we were destined to do, based off the realization we are lazy. Discipline is the key to all. Diligence is the motherhood to success. Things do not happen over night. Have the patience and the endurance to do the things that matter most to you.

Who is there to blame?

When people scrutinize other's for their own choices, I just don't get it! The best part of America is the right to choose. We choose and will forever choose the outcomes of our lives. If you don't make enough money, change it! If you don't like where you live, MOVE! If you don't like your job, find another! Why blame a system, when the decision was yours in the first place? Many get into a rut about not being able to change their living habits or stuck with what their lives have to offer now. Sometimes as humans we need to regain control of our lives and work out what we can do. Sometimes that takes an effort of stepping back, refocusing, and making those baby steps back to change. When you point your single finger, 4 are pointing back at you. "Ahhhh, Kari, it's easy for you to say!" REALLY???? How many people in this world have managed to experience a failure? How many people in this world are too afraid to risk the chances of failure? And how many people in this world continue to fail based off the belief that it's not their fault? I've managed to watch and observe several different types of people I've had come in and out of my life. The story is all the same. The story line never changes. It's all about what someone didn't do, what someone didn't say, or how the government is just screwing them over. When do you gain the control of your life? Or will you ever? It's so frustrating to see other's struggle and are not realistic with why they are in that situation to begin with. I'm not perfect, I will never be perfect. The only thing I strive to be is a good person, living a good life. Discipline is the bridge to all. Never hope for more than you are willing to work.